BACK BREAKING CLINGY LOVE

This is a whine post! As I write it, I have a double shot of baileys (didn’t have wine to whine with).

Letting go of the baby is hard! Even through a bad back, a flare up of asthma and my own personal goals I can’t stay away from my little baby baby too long. My gosh, although I nudge my friends to be less clingy with their little ones, I haven’t un-clung myself to baby baby! He is a heavy 10 month-er and his mummy’s back is starting to protest at his weight! This post is primarily about that. BACK-PAIN. All I did before today’s bout of close to crippling pain was walk to the gate while carrying him and back into the house… barely 20 steps with three outdoor stairs, a girl cannot sit up straight or bend without wincing… let alone stand straight.

I do not want to see a chiropractor again and physiotherapy is not an option. My husband thinks my aches and pains are because I got fat. So his solution is losing weight. But see I had an Afro dance session today that wouldn’t have happened for this bloody pain. I gave up training with him because my back couldn’t handle the strain (also his workouts are brutal! Effective, but quite brutal), thus my catch 22. To work out means more pain and possibly injure an already weak back. I do not like pain neither do I want anything more to take me to a doctor. This pain makes me useless to me. Now if I am useless to me, who can I be useful to? There are lots of resources online about how to strengthen ones back especially post pregnancy but I want tried and tested ways from Kenyan or African women, because I am tired of trial and error.

I want to play with my babies and dance my way back to form but yahwah! Mugo-ongo! Talk to me if you have an idea that will not cost me money I don’t have ;). (Brokenness is also the price I pay for being unable to un-cling myself from baby baby too long – Clingy motherly motherhood, hoyeee!)

On the bright side, moving baby baby to share a room with his brother took one night of needy tortured wails, 2 or so nights of wailing protests against his new room and then relative peace and sleeping through the night! So dear moms, my tried and tested method of sleep training is cry-it-out. Steel your nerves for one week and you will have your nights back.